Are your expectations leaving you disappointed? Here is the truth..
By Manna Abraham
Thought leader, mindful entrepreneur, international life mentor, personal and business breakthrough coach, trauma healer, speaker, CA, CPA and Founder- EMPR Method, Adelaide, Australia
Introduction by Venkat
One can sort the bad apples from good apples by their appearance and texture to pleasantly discard them. When it comes to people we just cannot discard anyone even if they meet all the criteria of badness – for the simple reason that anyone and everyone has the power to self-transform themselves if they will enough for it. That is how human beings seem to be, by design. While the power endowed in everyone is the same, each has a different set of obstacles and battles to deal with, which they do in their own positive or negative ways. Hence the patterns in others’ behaviour, speech and thought are exhibited in extremely unique ways. So unique that they appear like bad apples to our eyes and fit enough to be discarded. So the hand of this ‘expectation’ picks and does the job (figuratively).
Manna, in this article, brings expectations at the crossroad, between reaction and positive action. Her questions are incisive and the resolution is tempered with wisdom. As always, Manna brings valuable insights with practical approaches to common personal and social problems that plague many lives. Gratitude for her contributions to Adaptive Instruction.
Are your expectations leaving you disappointed? Here is the truth..
“Expectations are not wrong after all, if you have the wisdom what to expect and what not to”. But the challenge is how do you get that? Quite often, you expect from people whom you are conditioned to expect and forget “what” they are capable of.
– You don’t expect a fish to walk just because you can walk.
– You don’t expect your dog to think in advance and plan just because you are an organizer.
Why?
Because you know them and accept them as they are. So, it is not an issue or concern. But you expect your child, parents or partner to behave a certain way or understand you because you can and you are capable of it. Above all they look like humans.
One of my clients was expecting her sister-in-law to be appreciative of her success instead of being jealous, because that is something she would do. Can you see the common thread?
“You are expecting from others what you are capable of”.
Two reasons behind your disappointment:
- Lack of understanding that every human is a different species just like a dog and a fish.
- Lack of ability to read and understand humans.
Start understanding people as they are and not what or how you want them to be. And that begins with absolute self-awareness and a greater understanding. Begin with small changes and things will shift.
By Manna Abraham
Thought leader, mindful entrepreneur, international life mentor, personal and business breakthrough coach, trauma healer, speaker, CA, CPA and Founder- EMPR Method, Adelaide, Australia
Over 20 years’ experience in personal and professional leadership, working across Argentina, Australia, Germany, Canada, New Zealand, Hong Kong, India, US and the UK. Manna Abraham is a thought leader, mindful entrepreneur, international life mentor, personal and business breakthrough coach, trauma healer, speaker, CA, CPA and Founder- EMPR Method.
She brings ancient wisdom and modern science together in enabling individuals and businesses to be successful.
“A Core belief is that Self-Awareness is the key to master your mind, body and redesign your life. Religion & Spirituality should not stop your personal evolution. There is much more beyond that”
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